I remember in elementary school, whenever people'd have a fight, they'd go around asking the rest of the class whose side they were on. I remember my usual answer would be "I'm not on anyone's side," and of course, people wouldn't understand that, wouldn't understand that their fight is not my fight, especially because usually, the people fighting were both as much my friends [or not] and the issue so petty and personal I really wouldn't know who was 'right'.I usually ended up siding with the 'underdog' on general principle.
These days, the people I consider my friends don't ask me to pick sides. And I don't. When I notice someone 'bashing' my friend[s], I will alert them to this, and then it's really up to them to react or not. If they do, I will follow the conversation, sometimes jump in to correct a fact or clarify what my friends are trying to say, or whatnot, but if they don't, then why should I?
I think 'defending' your friends is generally a bad idea. First of all, you will inevitably have to assume certain things about your friend and their relationship to the person 'bashing' them. Secondly, if your friends don't feel the need to defend themselves, is it really worth your time to do that for them?
Opinoins, anyone? Do you defend your friends? Why? Why not?
I'm so glad I'm out of that fandom. I'm glad I'm not into any fictional fandom anymore. Sure, groups may [semi-]split and people may argue, but at least with real people you're sure they're always in character, and they're never really over until all of them have died.
That'll do, pig.
But I also made it clear to (Vladimir Putin) that it's important to think beyond the old days of when we had the concept that if we blew each other up, the world would be safe.Awww, and was so close, too. Just one little word too many. [Much?]
The 'official story' is that tallific has disbanded. Yesterday, the group'd been deleted from y!groups, and people's passwords for the archive stopped working. Sorcha emailed Spooky, who said the list had been disbanded because "it was too much a stress on her and others".
I'm not buying this, people. If the list's disbanded, how come none of your LJs mention it? How come all of the comments you've posted since the supposed deletion of the list are just as cheerful as ever? How come no one but the people who've openly associated with us seem to know about this?
You know what? I think you're a bunch of
Paranoid freaks
That is all. Feel free to inflict your wost comments on me. I can take it.