ARGH!

[bubosquared]

I hate people.

Was sitting across from these two old women on the train, and one of them mentions she saw these two blokes holding hands on the street the other day.

I get a sinking feeling.

Sure enough, this is their cue to launch into a fifteen-minute ramble on how they had nothing against gay people, but they shouldn't flaunt it in front of everyone and bla bla bla bullshitcakes.

Was about to pointedly leave as one of them decided to drag me into it. Her, clearly expecting total and utter agreement: "Don't you agree, miss?"
Me, looking up from the magazine I'd been pretending to read: "Actually, I don't. I'm a lesbian. And I don't think I should hide that fact just because people are uncomfortable with it. It's only by being visible that we can help people become comfortable with it."

And then I gave them my most angelic smile and got back to my magazine. They were silent for a few minutes and then changed the subject.

Yeah, that felt good, but it didn't take away the sinking feeling I got from listening to these two women go on and on about how, quite basically, I have less rights than others. It's a good thing I was having a good day before that, because now I'm just pissed, and otherwise I'd have been depressed.

Thankfully, there is still hope

Comments

[i-amthecosmos.livejournal.com]

First, good for you. Second, I know how that is, I hate it when people make assumptions about what I should believe. I've heard so much fucking ignorance about Black people that I'm thinking of having my husband's comeback "Don't assume I share your predjudices", made into a T-shirt.

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[bubosquared.livejournal.com]

Thanks. :) And yeah, I hate it when people simply assume that everyone is straight, because hi, I might be open about my sexuality, but I don't walk around with the word "DYKE" stamped on my forehead, you know? Straight is not the default. You can't just pick us out of a crowd.

[armistice.livejournal.com]

Wow. Go you for speaking up for yourself! That's awesome.

But, you know, I hate that attitude. That "I don't have anything against them, but I don't want to see it" attitude. Because, yeah, hi? They do actually have something against it, they just don't want people to think they're ignorant assholes. But, guess what? Yeah, we already do.

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[bubosquared.livejournal.com]

Thanks. :)

And yeah, I'd honestly rather deal with the outright homophobes than with the "well-meaning" people, who "don't hate gays" but honestly think we shouldn't "flaunt it", "for our own good". It's just. Blah.

[darksong.livejournal.com]

I'd much rather see public displays of affection from gays than straight people. With a lot of straight people, I feel it's a lot of show (sometimes--not all the time) but with gays, I know what they're up against, and so it seems more real to me.

I'm glad you stood up to them, though. That was good of you.

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[bubosquared.livejournal.com]

I often feel uncomfortable around any PDAs, because it feels like I'm invading people's privacy, although it's really the other way round, if anything. But m/f PDAs tend to make me sad and angry sometimes, because I often can't help but hate them for the fact that they can do this, they're allowed, but two people of the same gender even just holding hands are facing so much hatred, ...

Yeah, I'm glad I stood up to them, too, although I wish I'd have done it before they brought be into it themselves.

[zero3kid.livejournal.com]

You are awesome.
That is all.

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[bubosquared.livejournal.com]

Aw, thanks. :)