Now I, personally, am not bothered by being addressed as a 'guy', but then I've always felt 'one of the guys'. But then, Ruth doesn't have my gender identity issues, so if she refuses to be a guy, I'll do my best not to address her as one. [Note how I said I'll do my best. I know I'll often slip. Feel free to cough loudly when such is the case.]
Aside: I spent at least 15 minutes trying to figure out how to call the chatgirls then, because "y'all" - I've used it, and it made me slap my head every time I cought myself at it - is just far too American for me. Yes, I'm a language-snob. I'am fully aware of this.
Lastly, Ruth, if you don't want to be seen as a 'girl', I'll do my best not to call you one, but I am a girl, and I'd like to have the right to identify as one, thanks. You made a good point about the 'guys' thing, but I personally don't see the harm in identifying as a girl even though I'm 20. I am not a woman. I'm a girl.
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2. Girls are children. If you're a girl, then someone else needs to take care of you and be in control of your life. If you're a girl, then your parents have the right to tell you when to go to bed and how much time you can spend on the Internet, because only adults, grown-up women and men, have the right to and the capability of making those kinds of decisions for ourselves.
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Also, I don't think this is a winnable fight. [Wow, witness my incredible vocabulary.] I think in the end, 'guys' will just become a generic, non-gender-specific noun, and people won't even consider it to be making women invisible.
And I don't identify as male. I identify as non-gendered. Or maybe bi-gendered. So maybe that's [part of] the problem I can't empathise with you on this.
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It is possible for seemingly contradictory co-meanings to co-exist. Just think about the phrases 'I could care less' and 'I couldn't care less'. Literally, they don't mean the same thing, but they're colloquial usage is interchangeable.
WitchQueen (http://www.slashx-files.com/blog/)
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Anyway. Identity and such. No, there's nothing wrong with being one of the guys, and as a lady with no gender identity issues, I can be a guy with a straight face and a clear conscience. In fact, it's being singled out ("Hey guys, and Jennifer, check this out!" etc.) is what gets to me...
Being a girl is fine, being a woman isn't half-bad either (although I'm a little young, 19). I'd prefer to be called a lady, but nobody calls anybody else that anymore...oh, well.
Y'all...even though I'm not from the south, and am intelligent and educated, sometimes I can't help myself and I have to talk like I was born in a barn. Language snob I am not. ^_^
Damn the server!
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And I have he same thing in Dutch [my mother tongue], that urge to talk like I'm from somewhere I've barely even been. Oddness est, ne?